I posted a short story today about my 17 year old daughter and her boyfriend getting caught having sex by my 12 year old son Joshua. I shared this with my extended circles on Google Plus, partly because it’s funny and (to me) heartwarming, and partly because I think it’s helpful to post these stories to remind people that sexuality is a fundamental part of being human and not something to be ashamed of.
One of my closer friends on Google Plus commented that she approved of the story. I thanked her for her comment and told her I appreciate it. I rarely post this kind of thing and when I do, I wonder whether I’m oversharing. After thinking it through, I usually end up sharing it to extended circles because part of being fully human is sharing life experiences with others. It helps remind us that we all need to be loved and accepted first, and that fulfilling this need enables us to take on higher goals, like loving others and making life better for all. We all face the same major choices in life and certain aspects of growing up are universal, at least in a free society.
Human sexuality in particular has been oppressed for millennia by being considered shameful or an “animal urge” to keep secret. I find that ridiculous as well as counterproductive, and ultimately the most harmful to the least powerful, who end up having to obey these rules or suffer greatly. These least powerful include most women and anyone whose sexuality doesn’t fit the rules the powerful put in place.
We see this fight playing out very publicly now in the extreme right’s attempts to restore biblical era constraints and consequences on women and homosexuals. The regressives will lose this war and their views will eventually become extinct, and humanity will be much better without them.
It gives my wife and I joy to see our children, and their friends, view our home as a sanctuary where they can let down their guard and be themselves. We hope they go on to create their own sanctuaries where their own children and others can be themselves, confident that they will be accepted.